We are not as unique as we think and although this is sad on so many levels; it lends hope, that we can connect and soothe and grow, along with others suffering and/or rejoicing in similar ways. While I am a solitary being, especially when I fall into darkness, I challenge myself to consistently leave my dwelling and spend time with others. When I am in need of greater assistance, I seek out support groups. Support groups have helped me fight back a variety of darkened states: drug addiction, alcoholism, depression, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), and work stress. Sometimes, I receive creative solutions in support of coping with a particular problem. Other times, practices that I know, but are hidden in my current film of darkness, resurface. What wakes my soul is when what I have to say resonates with the group and our light collides.
While we are given only one life, we are given each other. Even a solitary being such as this writer, needs encounters with others. My sphere contains a spouse, a son, a daughter, a mother, other family members, a few fantastic friends, wonderful neighbors, and a support group that is helping me resurrect my light. Social media is an excellent outlet for me as well. I get to socialize with a number of people, in the comfort of my fabricated bubble.
If you are like most adults, you spend the majority of your time at work. Work can be very stressful, but some of my greatest days spent there were because of some very cool and crazy coworkers. While some of us are lucky enough to win the work group lottery, others are not. I recall one particular workplace, where I witnessed a group of coworkers that were so tight, darkness could not seep in. They walked together to lose weight, celebrated personal and work-related milestones and were simply there for each other. Our company went through an acquisition, layoffs and numerous management changes, but they smiled and supported each other through our difficult times. Supportive souls abound, lending each other light so collectively, they shine brighter.
Let’s start reaching out more. Whether we join a march to fight bigotry, or call that friend we have been meaning to get coffee with. Plan a double date or go spend time with the animals at the zoo. If you need deeper healing, seek out a support group. If you can’t find a support group, start your own. This blog is as much for me as it is for you – ya, you – the one immersed in a darkness of your own – I see you.